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  • The Day Seems Bleak
    The Day Seems Bleak

    We’ve had FIVE covid related lockdowns. Full of long, bleak days. So many that even I, an introvert who works from home, has about had enough.

  • Walking the Tightrope
    Walking the Tightrope

    It’s the time of year when I usually start to get a bit snaky. Walking the tightrope between the usual thing and the need for a break.

  • 5 Tips for updating our homes without updating them
    5 Tips for updating our homes without updating them

    In April, I mentioned we had started a list of renovations for updating our homes. I had even gone as far as short listing some builders to do the work.

  • Tell your fear “Silenzio Bruno!”
    Tell your fear “Silenzio Bruno!”

    Alberto tells Luca that the voice of his fear is Bruno, whose role is to stop him doing anything interesting. That when he’s afraid he should tell the voice “Silenzio Bruno,” and do it anyway.

  • Dating Spending Plan
    Dating Spending Plan

    I heard the divorce rate has skyrocketed, so it’s the perfect time to set up a dating spending plan

  • Forgetting and Remembering
    Forgetting and Remembering

    I find I’m forgetting a lot lately. And I’ve been thinking a lot about how to expand my memory, in part to recapture some of what I lost after the stroke.

  • Puppy has Sharp Teeth
    Puppy has Sharp Teeth

    It’s hardly groundbreaking news for anyone who owns a puppy (or is owned by one), but they have sharp teeth.

  • Decisions Big and Small
    Decisions Big and Small

    Lately, I’m wiped out by about lunchtime. I put it down to all the decisions I’m making. It’s like all the small decisions take just as much brain space as the big.

  • It’s Not All Just Dumb Luck
    It’s Not All Just Dumb Luck

    I admit it. In fact, I proudly declare it. I am a “bleeding heart liberal.” It’s probably because I grew up poor. The seemingly dumb luck of it. I mentioned in the dedication to Holistic Personal Finance that my mother saved the one and two cent pieces for herself. She saved the 5c for me.…

  • I’m Losing My Mind (I think)
    I’m Losing My Mind (I think)

    I think as well as rats (of the flying and furry kind) we are infested with mischievous pixies. Either that or I’m losing my mind.

  • Life is Short
    Life is Short

    Life is short. It’s over before you know it. Even without the Cult of Celebrity, most of us want to be remembered. Hopefully for something worthwhile. I’d prefer to be known more for my books than my lackadaisical housekeeping. You might prefer being a good parent, circus performer or surgeon. It’s funny that when I…

  • Let Sleeping Dogs Lie
    Let Sleeping Dogs Lie

    Something I’ve learned since becoming a dog owner again is that it’s best to let sleeping dogs lie. When they’re sleeping they are quiet.

  • Taking Pleasure Where You Find it
    Taking Pleasure Where You Find it

    Taking pleasure is largely a matter of choice. Sometimes the things that bring you pleasure are the things you have to work for.

  • Stop and Smell the Roses
    Stop and Smell the Roses

    Last year, I wrote about tiny little things. How pausing to stop and smell the roses might help you feel a little bit more in control. It does for me at any rate.

  • Welcome Back!
    Welcome Back!

    Welcome, welcome back! It’s been ages since I wrote. I didn’t mean to leave such a long gap between posts.

  • This Will Pass (at some point)
    This Will Pass (at some point)

    I’m writing the books people will need to take their next steps into whatever new normal is on the way. So my point here, is this will pass. Life will move on.

  • The Tiny Pretty Things
    The Tiny Pretty Things

    When you think about it, life is all about the tiny things. The tiny pretty things.

  • “My” Ellery Queen Mystery Magazine is out!
    “My” Ellery Queen Mystery Magazine is out!

    Just a quick note to let you know my story is in the September/October Ellery Queen Mystery Magazine, available from August 21, 2020.

  • Beauty Excites Emotion
    Beauty Excites Emotion

    Okay, so we all know that the last few months have been hard, emotionally draining, and not very beautiful. Especially here in Australia, what with it being winter and all. Some days, I look out the window at the cold grey skies, and wonder where all the beauty went. Though beauty is as beauty does.…

  • Melody for Marbles
    Melody for Marbles

    In a recent blog post, Dean Wesley Smith mentioned driving from Lincoln City, Oregon to Las Vegas, Nevada with a car full of marbles. Carefully packed to not “bang together.”

  • My Trifecta of Thanks
    My Trifecta of Thanks

    There’s a lot to be upset about at the moment, most of it we have no control over, but there’s still a lot to be grateful for, so here’s my Trifecta of Thanks.

  • Times Are Tough and Getting Tougher
    Times Are Tough and Getting Tougher

    There’s no doubt times are tough right now – June especially so under Covid restrictions has passed, even though they’re easing a bit.

  • Is the Old or New Normal Better For You?
    Is the Old or New Normal Better For You?

    Politicians have “won” the war on Covid, and are talking “getting back to normal,” even though we don’t have a normal to go back to. We have a “new normal.”

  • Carlton the Human Hairpin
    Carlton the Human Hairpin

    I have to start by saying this is not the post I set out to write, and if you’re not fond of clowns, you should immediately shut the page down and move on to something less frightening. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. Now. I’ve written before about appropriateness in clothing and a little about…

  • Henchmen
    Henchmen

    Who knew there was a reason henchmen (aka henchers) are called henchmen?

  • The Joy of Being
    The Joy of Being

    It seems to me, despite the sh*t going on right now, the joy of being alive balances it out.

  • I’m Fine Just Behind
    I’m Fine Just Behind

    Bearing in mind my friend Katy’s concern about her favourite blogger, I thought I’d post a picture and let you know I’m fine just behind.

  • Virtual Dinner Party
    Virtual Dinner Party

    It’s hard to stay connected in lock-down. You can’t meet in person, but you can get online and host a Virtual Dinner Party.

  • The Little Things I’m Grateful For
    The Little Things I’m Grateful For

    When times are tough (like now), it can help to acknowledge the good things we’re grateful for. Some days are harder than others, and on those days, I try to focus on the little things I’m grateful for. The everyday ones that I would suffer without.

  • It’s Weather for Ducks
    It’s Weather for Ducks

    I’m not sure why people compain about rain they call it nasty – weather for ducks! (Though I’m not exactly sure why it’s only weather for ducks, and not swans or ibis.)

  • How to Set up a Giving Programme
    How to Set up a Giving Programme

    About a hundred years ago (February 2020), I suggested we think about setting up a giving programme.

  • It’s Not War, it’s Sickness
    It’s Not War, it’s Sickness

    All these fat old white men talking about a war on Covid-19 is making me irritable. It’s not war, it’s sickness.

  • Do I Start Again or Start Something New?
    Do I Start Again or Start Something New?

    Poor Pretty Girl is gone now, and I find myself not only orphaned but petless too. It’s been hard to start again

  • On Not Perpetuating Sexist Language
    On Not Perpetuating Sexist Language

    I recently read an interesting piece by Alison Flood, who reports Oxford University Press (OUP) are replacing the sexist language in example sentences in the Oxford English Dictionaries (OED).

  • Wealthy is as Wealthy Does
    Wealthy is as Wealthy Does

    There’s a proverb of sorts, Beauty is as Beauty does And according to Walt Disney (video has sound) at any rate, it means being kind and doing something nice for someone who feels down. Every single day. Because beauty is about what’s on your inside, not the outside. You can Google to your heart’s content,…

  • How to Design a Peaceful Garden
    How to Design a Peaceful Garden

    Iโ€™ve mentioned one of my major goals this year is to create a peaceful garden thatโ€™s lush and abundant, provides habitats, weather protection and a mystical threshold.

  • Public Bathroom Benefits
    Public Bathroom Benefits

    A while back, someone told me that most people are too lazy to travel more than one or two cubicles in a public bathroom. And the longer the run, the cleaner the end is by comparison to the beginning.

  • Thank You Mrs Sparkle
    Thank You Mrs Sparkle

    Mrs Sparkle is the most selflessly loving person I know. She’s always making and doing things for other people, and no one ever says thank you.

  • Remembering and Forgetting
    Remembering and Forgetting

    Not long ago, Katy got in touch. And I was remembering that she taught me one of the most important lessons that I have ever learned.

  • Medieval Dinner Party
    Medieval Dinner Party

    I watched The King, so now I’m doing a Medieval Dinner Party. Though I suppose more technically it should be called a Banquet.

  • Alice ‘mid the Starships
    Alice ‘mid the Starships

    When I first saw this image I was intrigued because it’s a Victorian glass lantern slide titled ” Oh there, ‘mid the starships, Alice, I know a”. And I was really curious about the starships.

  • Joyful Memories from Gifts of Love
    Joyful Memories from Gifts of Love

    Iโ€™ve already talked about realia; the stuff used by historic figures or at historic events and therefore worthy of collection. But as it turns out, we leave us day-to-day reminders of themselves as well โ€“ Gifts of Love.

  • Understanding Choice and What To Do With It
    Understanding Choice and What To Do With It

    A while back, almost at the start of this blog, I talked about a place for setting goals for choice. And when it came down to it, understanding choice – consciously making choices, not having them thrust on me. Mind you, that also came with the intention of getting good at cryptic crosswords and I…

  • Your hierarchy of needs
    Your hierarchy of needs

    In 1954, Abraham Maslow posited that all people are driven to fulfil a basic set of human needs, from the most basic through a hierarchy of needs.

  • What I Need Right Now
    What I Need Right Now

    The other day I was watching Men in Black: International, and among other things that made me laugh, were the red buttons. The “what I need right now” buttons that supercharge whatever thing they’re attached to

  • Time of Great Regret
    Time of Great Regret

    I generally call myself a forward thinker, but just lately I’ve been thinking backwards. It’s been a time of Great Regret.

  • 5 Hints for Achieving Happiness
    5 Hints for Achieving Happiness

    Some days it seems you are exhortated to be happy. Other days you might as well try to be cheese as be happy. So, how do you go about Achieving Happiness?

  • The Happy Benefits of Overcoming Fear
    The Happy Benefits of Overcoming Fear

    One of the 2019 Emerging Writers Festival workshops I enjoyed was Madeleine Dore’s Reaching the Finish Line, but it was mainly about overcoming fear.

  • London Blitz Dinner Party
    London Blitz Dinner Party

    Just recently I’ve read (and written) a few stories about World War II London. I’m inspired to write a London Blitz Dinner Party. Food shortages not withstanding, it’s easier than you think.

  • How to Save Your Private Papers for Posterity
    How to Save Your Private Papers for Posterity

    I’m working on a new book and over the last few weeks I’ve spent many hours snooping about in century old private papers.

  • How to Mind the Beeswax of Business
    How to Mind the Beeswax of Business

    I’ve been thinking about minding the beeswax of business. It started when I was happily watching a period drama.

  • How to Choose What To Do First
    How to Choose What To Do First

    It’s been a busy couple of weeks. I have so much to do that I’m not sure what to do first. Or second. Or last for that matter.

  • The Exciting Discovery of an Epic Library Catalogue
    The Exciting Discovery of an Epic Library Catalogue

    Sometimes it’s funny what you find isn’t it? You start an internet search with a clear goal, and this leads to that, which comes round to the other. And before you know it, the day’s gone and all you found was an epic library catalogue from the sixteenth century!

  • Are Traditional Family Values a Good Thing?
    Are Traditional Family Values a Good Thing?

    Here in Australia, we’re just a couple of weeks away from the Federal Election. Like all elections, the bulk of candidates are campaigning on Traditional Family Values.

  • How to Renovate Your Life
    How to Renovate Your Life

    Pretty Girl’s experiencing a new interest in things that make Labradors happy – she makes me think there are times you need to renovate your life.

  • How to Plan a Bright Future
    How to Plan a Bright Future

    Iโ€™ve been reading Any Ordinary Day and thinking about what makes a bright future. In the book, Leigh Sales interviews people about their first-hand experiences.

  • Books: to keep or not?
    Books: to keep or not?

    Since I read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying, I keep falling over intense, library voice (whispered) bookish debates about books – to keep or not.

  • Year of the Pig Perspicacity
    Year of the Pig Perspicacity

    If you hadn’t noticed, we’re just starting the Chinese Year of the Pig. I have a few words about pig perspicacity. Mainly because it’s a nice alliteration.

  • 5 Ways to Make a Bad Day Better
    5 Ways to Make a Bad Day Better

    Ever had one of those days when something went wrong? What seemed like a reasonable day is in a ditch, and youโ€™re looking for ways to make a bad day better.

  • Bushfire Dinner Party
    Bushfire Dinner Party

    This Bushfire Dinner Party is a bit of a cheat because if you’re having a Dinner Party and a bushfire breaks out, it’s time to abandon the party and activate your bushfire plan! Having said that, I was inspired by local tv coverage of a cafe madly making lunches for the volunteer firefighters working to…

  • Some Thoughts on Things
    Some Thoughts on Things

    Iโ€™ve had some thoughts on things: things we buy, things we keep, and things we throw away. Thatโ€™s a lot of things.

  • How to celebrate your 100th birthday
    How to celebrate your 100th birthday

    A few days ago, Mary Beard asked; “How do you celebrate your 100th birthday?” Like her, I don’t have a fond hope for reaching 100 years.

  • Stress Free K-Drama Dinner Party
    Stress Free K-Drama Dinner Party

    Stillย binging on K-drama, but wanting a K-Drama Dinner Party to share some of the food I’m seeing.

  • Stress Free Steampunk Dinner Party
    Stress Free Steampunk Dinner Party

    I’m laughing a little, because thisย  Steampunk Dinner Party, is an almost but not quite a Victorian Dinner Party, because Steampunk is a futuristic science fiction genre powered by Victorian steam technology.

  • What is Love?
    What is Love?

    Iโ€™ve been watching a few romances lately, and I canโ€™t help asking, what is love? Bearing in mind the standard romance book/movie/song story line where a person meets another person, falls in love, has a big fight, gets back together and lives happily ever after.

  • I miss you so much
    I miss you so much

    One of the key Stoic philosophical foundations is preparing yourself for misfortune. There’s a sort of miss you or make you risk management element to it.

  • Big F and small f Friends
    Big F and small f Friends

    After debate about Big L and small l liberals, I got thinking about Big F and small f friends.

  • How To Apologise Like You Mean It
    How To Apologise Like You Mean It

    There’s been another round of dud apologies, and I just don’t get why some people find it so hard to apologise. Perhaps they too have a mother who spent years demanding that they apologise like they mean it. And when (if) they do, it’s often too late – the horse has bolted – the damage…

  • Start a New Business  Spending Plan
    Start a New Business Spending Plan

    It’s tax time here in Australia. Often people seeing their numbers in black and white on their returns start wondering about starting a new business.

  • Stress Free Dinner Party When You’re Not Hungry
    Stress Free Dinner Party When You’re Not Hungry

    While aย Dinner Party when you’re not hungry seems like a contradiction, it does sometimes happen that for one reason or another you lose your appetite.

  • Coffee’s Place in the New Culture of Selfishness
    Coffee’s Place in the New Culture of Selfishness

    Recently I’ve been pondering the culture of selfishness we live in. The one where people pull out in front of you rather than waiting a few seconds for you to drive past.

  • The Pleasure and Pain of the Stories You Tell Yourself
    The Pleasure and Pain of the Stories You Tell Yourself

    They say thereโ€™s a novel in all of us, but it seems to me that the stories you tell yourself on an average day could write a novel a day for the rest of your life. And still not make a dent in your story.

  • Dinner Party to Comfort a Friend with Depression
    Dinner Party to Comfort a Friend with Depression

    Let me start by saying that a Dinner Party to Comfort a Friend with Depression is not the end of what you can do.

  • How to Make a Wild Monkey Contingency Plan
    How to Make a Wild Monkey Contingency Plan

    A wise man once told me that difficult thoughts are like wild monkeys. And Iโ€™ve discovered that now and again you need a Wild Monkey Contingency Plan just to get some peace.

  • 5 Easy Ways to Foster Your Life Energy
    5 Easy Ways to Foster Your Life Energy

    Eastern religions have a concept of life energy; Hindus call it prana, and the Chinese qi (chโ€™i). Some Western philosophical traditions call it รฉlan vital, or vital force.

  • How to Recognise and Take Advantage of Opportunities
    How to Recognise and Take Advantage of Opportunities

    You’re only a few steps from losing or winning it all. You just need the ability to recognise and take advantage of opportunities that come your way.

  • Life Is All Too Short
    Life Is All Too Short

    Life is a finite thing. It has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Sometimes life is all too short, and sometimes it’s way too long.

  • Memento Mori
    Memento Mori

    For those who don’t know, the Latin phrase Memento Mori more or less means remember, you’re gonna die too. And perhaps coincidentally concurrent with my visit to the Vikings exhibition, the funeral home that threatened to cancel my mother’s funeral four hours before it was due to commence sent me an email to remind me that it’s…

  • A Short Soapbox about Fat Old White Guys and Doing the Housework
    A Short Soapbox about Fat Old White Guys and Doing the Housework

    I’ve been thinking about modern life. And how fat old white guys still run the world. And that they believe they know what is best for everyone else.

  • Why You Should Joyfully Embrace  Difference
    Why You Should Joyfully Embrace Difference

    Except now and again, aย  singularly bright person stands out. They choose to embrace difference and drawing on their individuality, get out there and make an impact.

  • The Relationship Between Time Money and Love
    The Relationship Between Time Money and Love

    I’ve been researching Life in the Great Depression, so I’ve been thinking a lot about the relationships between time, money, and love.

  • Alexandria’s Adventures in Cataract Surgery
    Alexandria’s Adventures in Cataract Surgery

    I had cataract surgery a few days ago, and it went really well. But I find reading, writing, and watching quite tiring, and it makes my operated eye hot and scratchy.

  • 5 Ways to Plan for the Plateau
    5 Ways to Plan for the Plateau

    Somehow a conversation about The X-Files morphed into running aground when you are trying to lose weight because people just donโ€™t plan for the plateau.

  • The Adventures of Prussian Blue
    The Adventures of Prussian Blue

    Have you heard about the adventures of Prussian Blue? It’s a fascinating story of little things making a big difference to the way we see the world. And each other.

  • Rethinking Vulnerability
    Rethinking Vulnerability

    It seems that every time I turn around, I see or hear something about the benefits of vulnerability. Iโ€™ve talked about it before in relation to pride, but it seems like it might be time to look at it again.

  • Dealing with Assisted Death
    Dealing with Assisted Death

    Following a multi-party, Upper House inquiry into “end of life” choices; Victoria may become the first Australian state toย permit assisted death.

  • How to Deal With a Bad Day
    How to Deal With a Bad Day

    It’s been one of those days that you might call a badย day, and I’m feeling grumpy and generally disgruntled:

  • What Happens if You Slow Down?
    What Happens if You Slow Down?

    In a forum that we are both members of, Sharon asked the question “What happens when you slow down?”

  • Exemplum Virtutis
    Exemplum Virtutis

    Exemplum Virtutis, n. An example or model of virtue worthy of imitation; a paragon.

  • Alexandria’s Adventures in Productivity Journalling
    Alexandria’s Adventures in Productivity Journalling

    I’ve been into productivity journalling for a while, and I mention it in my monthly progress reports. I’ve been asked a few times what it is, how it works, and where to get one.

  • World Refugee Dayย #WithRefugees
    World Refugee Dayย #WithRefugees

    If you havenโ€™t heard, tomorrow (20 June) is the United Nations World Refugee Day.

  • Double Jeopardy in Jumping to a Conclusion
    Double Jeopardy in Jumping to a Conclusion

    I confess that I saw this drawing โ€œJumping to a Conclusionโ€ first. And having found the image I knew I had to write something to write about so I could use it. Like the creative writing exercises I used to do in primary (elementary) school. Only different.

  • How to Effectively Manage Your Mental Clutter
    How to Effectively Manage Your Mental Clutter

    As I was unpacking after my funeral trip, I realised it would take me a while to get back to normal mentally. I’d accumulated a lot of mental clutter leading up to the funeral trip, and it would be harder to sort out than unpacking a suitcase.

  • Why Pigeonholing People is a Problem
    Why Pigeonholing People is a Problem

    It is human nature to classify things, most commonly into good and bad categories where they can be safely forgotten. But pigeonholing people can be problematic for you as well as the person you are classifying.

  • Why You Are Lost Without Your Family Photos
    Why You Are Lost Without Your Family Photos

    As you know, I have been making arrangements for my mother’s funeral, and I spent almost a whole day looking through family photos for pictures of her. They will be placed up large on a tv screen in the Chapel and small for the memorial card.

  • How to Cope When Monotasking Goes Bad
    How to Cope When Monotasking Goes Bad

    I confess I am a monotasker, but right now, Iโ€™m struggling to cope as my monotasking goes bad. I prefer to do one thing at a time, generally until itโ€™s done.

  • The Melancholy of Ghosts Passing in the Night
    The Melancholy of Ghosts Passing in the Night

    I’m back at home, tired, jet lagged, and don’t fit into the Alexandria shaped hole I left behind. Feels like we’re all just ghosts passing in the night.

  • How to Plan a Stress Free Emergency Trip
    How to Plan a Stress Free Emergency Trip

    My 90-year-old mother has just come out of hospital, so tonight, after an emergency trip I am sitting in a hotel room in the town I grew up in.

  • First Aid for Old Injuries
    First Aid for Old Injuries

    I’ve been catching up on podcasts while catching trains, which led to the thought catching up on first aid for old injuries was a good idea.