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  • 2025 Summer Wardrobe Plan
    2025 Summer Wardrobe Plan

    It is, of course, bloody freezing as I start thinking about my 2025 summer wardrobe plan, and about all I can think about is fluffy slippers.

  • 2025 winter wardrobe update
    2025 winter wardrobe update

    It’s been a busy few months in which I lost or forgot a number of deadlines including the dentist and the 2025 winter wardrobe update. But, as they say, better late than never. Especially with the summer plan coming up.

  • 2025 Winter Wardrobe Plan
    2025 Winter Wardrobe Plan

    Somewhere along the lines, I’ve managed to slip a year of wardrobe plans. Nonetheless, it’s time to look at my 2025 winter wardrobe plan.

  • Minimally Viable Morning
    Minimally Viable Morning

    Trades are visiting so early, I’ve been more or less in my pyjamas and bed hair getting them started, so it’s time for a minimally viable morning.

  • 2023 Post-Mastectomy Summer Wardrobe Update
    2023 Post-Mastectomy Summer Wardrobe Update

    It’s time to examine the full horror of my 2023 post-mastectomy summer wardrobe update. I happily said, all I need is a dog walking dress and a top for $395; just enough to get me through the season.

  • Planning a Post-Mastectomy (flat chested) Wardrobe
    Planning a Post-Mastectomy (flat chested) Wardrobe

    Going by how much difficulty I had with my post-mastectomy Summer Plan, I wanted to write something specifically for post-matectomy women planning to go flat chested. This post will do until I can find the time to update the book with my findings.

  • 2023 Post-Mastectomy Summer Wardrobe Plan
    2023 Post-Mastectomy Summer Wardrobe Plan

    Five minutes ago summer arrived, so I decided to revamp my summer plan with the mastectomy to produce a 2023 post-mastectomy Summer Wardrobe Plan.

  • 2023 Summer Wardrobe Plan
    2023 Summer Wardrobe Plan

    As I sit here writing 2023 Summer Wardrobe Plan, it’s still winter out there, (just like last year), and Summer seems a long way away.

  • The Problems of #GirlMaths
    The Problems of #GirlMaths

    I recently heard about #girlmaths, and it doesn’t make me happy. It involves specious calculations to reduce the cost of clothes/shoes/accessories to free…

  • 2023 Winter Wardrobe Update
    2023 Winter Wardrobe Update

    As usual, my 2023 winter wardrobe update shows an overspend, though at least I’m not overspent and underdressed, so that’s something at least.

  • Three Types of Beauty
    Three Types of Beauty

    According to my loosey-goosey blog schedule, today’s post is supposed to be about Beauty, but I really have very little idea what to write about. So, I do what I always do in these circumstances – a random internet search to see what comes up. Here, in order of listing, is what comes up in…

  • 2023 Winter Wardrobe Plan
    2023 Winter Wardrobe Plan

    Given how blah the weather was through Summer, it feels wrong to be working on my 2023 winter wardrobe plan, but here I am doing it anyway.

  • 2022 Summer Wardrobe Update
    2022 Summer Wardrobe Update

    Here in Melbourne, 2022 Summer was more like winter than summer, but none the less, here’s my 2022 Summer Wardrobe Update!

  • 2022 Summer Wardrobe Plan
    2022 Summer Wardrobe Plan

    It’s cold and raining outside right now as I start thinking about my 2022 Summer wardrobe plan. I’m well rugged up with layers and layers trying to keep warm.

  • 2022 Winter Wardrobe Update
    2022 Winter Wardrobe Update

    As it turns out, my 2022 Winter Wardrobe Update is a tale of two sides of a coin – had to buy more than expected, but enjoyed in-person shopping.

  • Warm Outfit
    Warm Outfit

    In the midst of energy price increases, we’ve had a cold snap, and my thoughts are turning to the kind of warm outfit you can wear when working from home on your own. While not turning the heating on.

  • Life With Dog
    Life With Dog

    Check any dog owner’s instagram, tiktok, or whatever feed, you’ll see any number of cute life with dog pictures of dogs doing adorable things.

  • Who are you?
    Who are you?

    I had my hair cut today. That neatly generic old lady in the mirror didn’t feel like me. “Who are you?” I asked myself.

  • 2022 Winter Wardrobe Plan
    2022 Winter Wardrobe Plan

    There’s a lot to consider for the 2022 Winter wardrobe plan; Over the last 6 – 12 months I’ve slimmed down from a LARGE to a Small verging on Extra Small.

  • 2021 Summer Wardrobe Update
    2021 Summer Wardrobe Update

    Once again the weather is changeable, even for “Four Seasons in One Day” Melbourne, and it’s time to look at the 2022 Summer wardrobe update.

  • Ma’aming Me Elderly
    Ma’aming Me Elderly

    Only weeks after my Woman of a Certain Age post, I’ve reached a new miletstone in the race towards elderly, and I thought I’d share it with you.

  • A Woman of a Certain Age
    A Woman of a Certain Age

    Some where along the line, I became a “Woman of a Certain Age.” That is, the age at which it becomes unnecessary, and possibly impolite to query further.

  • 2021 Summer Wardrobe Plan
    2021 Summer Wardrobe Plan

    It’s time to start looking at my 2021 Summer Wardrobe Plan. As I write, the sun is shining, and I’m putting on and taking off my fleece. The shops are frantically dispatching end of season catalogues, and soon they’ll be replacing them with new styles for warmer weather.

  • 2021 Winter Wardrobe Update
    2021 Winter Wardrobe Update

    Winter has been a mixed bag in terms of clothes, weather and the pandemic, but now it’s time for my 2021 Winter Wardrobe Update.

  • Do or Die
    Do or Die

    It feels like we’ve been in forever, but with so much time spent at home (where possible), many people have found this a good time to get healthier. Do or die of a different kind.

  • 2021 Winter Wardrobe Plan
    2021 Winter Wardrobe Plan

    I’ve been freezing for what seems like ever. And therefore, thinking about lots of warm layers for my 2021 Signature Wardrobe Winter Plan.

  • 2020 Summer Wardrobe Update
    2020 Summer Wardrobe Update

    Before I get into my 2020 Summer Wardrobe Update, let’s recap the Summer Plan. Which was basically to get a bunch of black clothes.

  • 2020 Signature Wardrobe Summer Plan
    2020 Signature Wardrobe Summer Plan

    Due to unforeseen circumstances, my 2020 Signature Wardrobe Summer Plan is the kind of extreme you get when you have to replace your entire wardrobe.

  • 2020  Winter Wardrobe Update
    2020 Winter Wardrobe Update

    Let’s just say I’ve been cold, and skip to the rest of the 2020 Winter Wardrobe Update. My 2020 Winter plan was based on costumes for two characters:

  • How to Choose Appropriate Makeup
    How to Choose Appropriate Makeup

    So. I mentioned last time I’d intended to talk about appropriate makeup. And this is the post I’m going to do it in.

  • The Life-Changing Magic of Getting a Haircut
    The Life-Changing Magic of Getting a Haircut

    Somewhat related to my version of string theory is my hair theory, That getting a haircut can, and does change your life.

  • I Still Survive
    I Still Survive

    Sometimes you’re not thriving, sometimes it’s as much as you can do to come to a place where you can say “I still survive!”

  • 2020 Winter Wardrobe Plan
    2020 Winter Wardrobe Plan

    Thanks to our highly variable Melbourne weather, I’ve been thinking about my 2020 Winter Wardrobe Plan for some time. And staying warm!

  • 2019 Summer Wardrobe Update
    2019 Summer Wardrobe Update

    Technically, Summer has just ended, and itโ€™s time for the 2019 Summer Wardrobe Update, but the weather has been cool and wet and Iโ€™m already thinking about Winter.

  • Creating a Happy and Healthy Home
    Creating a Happy and Healthy Home

    Recently there have been a lot of changes in the Blaelock Household, with the aim of creating a happy and healthy home.

  • 2019 Summer Wardrobe Plan
    2019 Summer Wardrobe Plan

    After some lovely sunny days, and wonderful winter purchases, I’ve been warm enough to start thinking about a 2019 Summer Wardrobe Plan.

  • 2019 Winter Wardrobe Update
    2019 Winter Wardrobe Update

    The garden is full of Spring Bulbs, and we’ve had some slightly warmer days. So it’s time to get the 2019 Winter Wardrobe Update out of the way.

  • The Building Blocks of Style
    The Building Blocks of Style

    I’m fascinated by Harajuku style. It looks a random collection of stuff, but take a closer look, and you’ll see all the building blocks of style in an ever-changing arrangement.

  • Being Alone But Not Lonely With Others
    Being Alone But Not Lonely With Others

    I recently went to a writer’s conference. And that was kind of funny; writers are generally solitary creatures. Even in a crowded room we’re busy being alone.

  • Conference Outfit
    Conference Outfit

    Conference Season is upon us. On the one hand, you’ll get a few days out of the office and maybe make some new friends and industry contacts. On the other, you have to come up with a Conference Outfit…

  • The Joy of New Undergarments
    The Joy of New Undergarments

    I mentioned in my Winter Wardrobe Plan that I needed new undergarments. But it was a kind of off-hand addition that suggested there was no particular need or rush.

  • Funeral Outfit
    Funeral Outfit

    People die all the time and we barely think about it, but now and again there’s someone we want to pay our respects to, and that means a Funeral Outfit.

  • 2019 Winter Wardrobe Plan
    2019 Winter Wardrobe Plan

    I’m cold, it’s wet outside, and I’m wondering if I have enough warm clothes, so that makes it time to develop my 2019 Winter Wardrobe Plan.

  • 2018 Summer Wardrobe Update
    2018 Summer Wardrobe Update

    We’ve had some cooler weather and daylight savings ends in a few short weeks, so it’s time to do my 2018 Summer Wardrobe Update.

  • K-Drama Heroine Outfit
    K-Drama Heroine Outfit

    I’ve already mentioned my new passion for K-Drama, and one of the reasons I love it is the subtext. Particularly the way the K-Drama heroine outfit says so much about her and her mental state.

  • 2018 Summer Wardrobe Plan
    2018 Summer Wardrobe Plan

    Even though Spring is barely here, the shops are ready for Christmas so it’s time for myย 2018 Summer Wardrobe Plan.

  • 2018 Winter Wardrobe Update
    2018 Winter Wardrobe Update

    Before I start my Summer wardrobe planning, itโ€™s time for the 2018 Winter Wardrobe Update.

  • How to Overcome the Wardrobe Diet Dilemma
    How to Overcome the Wardrobe Diet Dilemma

    I was recently reading a book discussing the psychological effects of deprivation. Regardless of whether thatโ€™s cigarettes, cars, or a wardrobe diet.

  • Event Outfit
    Event Outfit

    The most common event outfit code today is Cocktail Dress; a semi-formal day/night transitional wear. It came about during the inter-war years when it was common to meet in the evening for a quick drink before dressing (black tie) for dinner.

  • Public Appearance Outfit
    Public Appearance Outfit

    Now and again there are times you need to be in public as yourself, only better.ย  When you’reย being a public figure, you need a public appearance outfit that makes it clear you’re “someone”.

  • How to Build an Outfit When You Want To Be Left Alone
    How to Build an Outfit When You Want To Be Left Alone

    Now and again, it happens that you just donโ€™t want to be bothered by other people. So today, we’re building anย outfit for when you want to be left alone.

  • Movie Outfit
    Movie Outfit

    My local cinema was so dark I thought it had closed down until a bunch of people in gym gear walked out, so I decided it was time for a Movie Outfit.

  • How to Build A Signature Shoe Wardrobe
    How to Build A Signature Shoe Wardrobe

    Iโ€™ve been preoccupied with shoes lately, or more accurately, the adequacy of them. And what a shoe wardrobe might look like. And what it would take to look after my feet better.

  • Brunch Outfit
    Brunch Outfit

    Today Iโ€™m looking at a brunch outfit. In case you donโ€™t know, brunch is a late breakfast you eat around lunchtime.

  • Research Outfit
    Research Outfit

    This one comes from Judy in Minnesota who sent me an email asking, among other things, about my research outfit. Recently I wore to the library for research.

  • 2018 Winter Wardrobe Plan
    2018 Winter Wardrobe Plan

    As I mentioned in my Summer Update there have been some changes in my dressing requirements, so it’s time to plan out myย 2018 Winter Wardrobe Plan.

  • 2017 Summer Wardrobe Update
    2017 Summer Wardrobe Update

    Let me start by saying while there was no plan, I thought Iโ€™d do a 2017 Summer Wardrobe Update anyway because I learned a few useful things in the meantime.

  • Hospital Admission Outfit
    Hospital Admission Outfit

    With my recent surgical visit fresh in my mind, today I’m offering a hospital admission outfit. This outfit is for your first day at hospital, whether that’s for a day procedure, overnight, or a longer stay. Your hospital will tellย you about any other items you should bring with you. Climate/Location/Activities The first thing to note…

  • Outfit to Inspire Action
    Outfit to Inspire Action

    I could win gold medals for procrastination, so it seems to me that I (and my friend Katy) need an Outfit to Inspire Action.

  • Christmas Party Outfit
    Christmas Party Outfit

    I’ve been asked a couple of times now, what would make a goodย Christmas Party Outfit. On the one hand, a perfectly reasonable request, and on the other, a complete nightmare given the different kinds of Christmas Party you could be attending.

  • Dog Walking Outfit
    Dog Walking Outfit

    The other day at the dog park, I was aksed my I dress so nice to take the dogs put. As good an excuse as any to talk aboutย a dog walking outfit. The outfit I was wearing is for warmer weather, and shares elements with my exercise, yard work, beach, and house cleaning outfits.

  • Race Meeting Outfit
    Race Meeting Outfit

    Spring is here, the Racing Carnival is off and running, and it’s time to think aboutย a Race Meeting Outfit.

  • 2017 Winter Wardrobe Update
    2017 Winter Wardrobe Update

    Weather’s warming up, I’m starting to think about what to wear on hot days. But first, here’s myย 2017 Winter Wardrobe Update.

  • Prepping for Summer
    Prepping for Summer

    The sun rises earlier, the days are warming, and it’s time to start thinking about prepping for summer.

  • Headshot Outfit
    Headshot Outfit

    All of us at one point or another will need a Headshot Outfit, even if itโ€™s just for your passport or drivers licence. And these days, you will most likely get one for your work security card, and increasingly your employerโ€™s website too!

  • Art Gallery Outfit
    Art Gallery Outfit

    Following my encouragement to visit the Hokusai exhibition, it seems only fair to build a Art Gallery Outfit.

  • Music Festival Outfit
    Music Festival Outfit

    I’m sitting, wrapped in blankets, envying my Northern friend’s summer plans. Today I’m imagining myself there and planning a Music Festival Outfit.

  • How to Choose a Signature Hairstyle
    How to Choose a Signature Hairstyle

    Like the other aspects of presence, you need to think aboutย how your signature hairstyleย fits your life before you go to the salon.

  • How to Build an Outfit to Conceal Your Identity
    How to Build an Outfit to Conceal Your Identity

    I witnessed a guy trying to get into a pub where he was barred, and I thought it would be useful to have an outfit to conceal your identity. I mean, if the Queen can do it, so can we!

  • Unveiling Outfit
    Unveiling Outfit

    Unveilings are generally solemn afternoon ceremonies that reveal a statue or monument for the first time. Your Unveiling Outfit should be an appropriately respectful semi-formal or formal outfit.

  • How to Tell if You have Expensive Taste
    How to Tell if You have Expensive Taste

    There have been several recent instances where I have been identified as a person with expensive taste. Itโ€™s said with affection, but there is a definite moral judgement to the pronouncement.

  • Errand Outfit
    Errand Outfit

    In my recent wardrobe planning posts (Winter 2017 and Summer 2016) I mentioned my need for a Errand Outfit, and Jane reached to ask what that is.

  • 2017 Winter Wardrobe Plan
    2017 Winter Wardrobe Plan

    The mornings are cool and dark, with recent storms, and summer time ends this weekend, so it’s time to think about my 2017 Winter Wardrobe Plan.

  • Picnic Outfit
    Picnic Outfit

    We are united by the desire to enjoy the good weather, and one way to do this is to don your Picnic Outfit and head to the beach or a park for a picnic.

  • Valentines Day Outfit
    Valentines Day Outfit

    Todayโ€™s Valentines Day Outfit is something to wear on a dinner date rather than something to commemorate the Christian Saint Valentinus.

  • Fresh Start Outfit
    Fresh Start Outfit

    Often at these times of transition, we change our hair and buy new clothes to symbolise the change. So today, we’re looking at a Fresh Start Outfit.

  • 2016 Summer Wardrobe Update
    2016 Summer Wardrobe Update

    I hadnโ€™t intended to write a post detailing my 2016 Summer Wardrobe update, but you asked, so here it is.

  • Regency Empire Line Outfit
    Regency Empire Line Outfit

    When you hear the term “empire line outfit” (or dress), this is the sort of thing that is referred to; the signature style of Emperor Napoleon I’s first wifeย Josรฉphine de Beauharnais. Or, if you were English (and at war with France), it would be Regency style. (Think Jane Austen and Pride and Prejudice). Though technically…

  • NaNoWriMo Outfit
    NaNoWriMo Outfit

    You come home from work ready to get changed and settle down to get your 1,667 words down. What are you going to wear?ย Your NaNoWriMo Outfit!

  • 2016 Summer Wardrobe Plan
    2016 Summer Wardrobe Plan

    Like many others, I’m starting to think aboutย new season clothes. It’s time to plan out my 2016 summer wardrobe plan

  • Signature Perfume 3: Trying Perfume Out
    Signature Perfume 3: Trying Perfume Out

    Now you know what perfume is, and have an idea of which one fits your lifestyle, itโ€™s time to start trying perfume out so you can find your signature perfume.

  • Signature Perfume 2:  Perfume that Fits
    Signature Perfume 2: Perfume that Fits

    Like the other aspects of your wardrobe, you need to decide whether your signature perfume that fits your life before you go to the store.

  • Signature Perfume 1: What Is Perfume?
    Signature Perfume 1: What Is Perfume?

    I’m prefers one perfume, Katy has all kinds of bottles, but before we start choosing, letโ€™s take a look at what is perfume.

  • Signature Wardrobe Working from Home Outfit
    Signature Wardrobe Working from Home Outfit

    One of the outfits that has vexed me for some time is a Working from Home Outfit. For me at least, itโ€™s going to be similar to the outfit for office work, because that is essentially what I am doing.

  • Outfit for shopping
    Outfit for shopping

    The weather is changing, the shops are selling off old stock, and youโ€™re adapting your wardrobe for the new season. Itโ€™s time to plan an outfit for shopping.

  • Elvis Tribute Outfit
    Elvis Tribute Outfit

    Elvis Presley died 16 August 1977, and today is the start of the annual Elvis Week in Memphis Tennessee. People dress in their Elvis Tribute Outfits, and take part in an

  • Is Your Appearance Equal to Your Virtue?
    Is Your Appearance Equal to Your Virtue?

    The sarcophagus of Scipio Barbatvs tells us that among the impressive things about him, it turns out that his appearance was equal to virtue.

  • Yard Work Outfit
    Yard Work Outfit

    We lost another shrub to the storms, and with a fair bit of clean up to do, it seems the right time to talk about building a Yard Work Outfit.

  • How to Choose an Appropriate Cardigan
    How to Choose an Appropriate Cardigan

    I know that some people donโ€™t quite get what I mean by appropriateness in clothing. So today weโ€™re talking about how to choose an appropriate cardigan by discussing why I have two red cardigans in my wardrobe.

  • Alexandria’s Adventures in Morning Routine
    Alexandria’s Adventures in Morning Routine

    Following my brush with theย collapse of control, I’ve been noticing a lot of chat about “morning routine” in my podcasts and webinars lately, and there has been one thing that stood out for me.

  • Office Work Outfit
    Office Work Outfit

    This is the season for fashion advisors to start telling you what new and expensive clothes you need to buy to make your Office Work Outfit for the next five minutes (before the next lot of essentials come out).

  • How To Dress Like Who You Are
    How To Dress Like Who You Are

    Iโ€™ve been reading Mary Brooks Picken again. She calls it distinctive dressing, but itโ€™s more along the lines of โ€œdress like who you areโ€. Something I talk about in my book Signature Wardrobe Planning.

  • Alexandria’s Adventure in Shaving Soap Shampoo
    Alexandria’s Adventure in Shaving Soap Shampoo

    I included some of Annette Kellerman’s hair care advice in my book Signature Wardrobe Planning.ย Including her assertion thatย theย shampoo is a pure soap like shaving soap followed by a rainwater rinse.

  • House Cleaning Outfit
    House Cleaning Outfit

    As you know, I have been trying (for a long time) to lift my game on cleaning house. Aside from clothes that are loose, with elbow length sleeves I haven’t thought about a House Cleaning Outfit to wear while doing it.

  • Alexandria’s Adventure in 100% Pashmina
    Alexandria’s Adventure in 100% Pashmina

    I bought a lovely shawl not long ago. It was labelled “100% Pashmina”, but I knew when I bought it that it was not “pashmina”.

  • 5 Shoe Fit Myths Busted
    5 Shoe Fit Myths Busted

    So I recently took my “go-to” boots to Toseland the cobbler to be resoled, and we were chatting about shoes and shoe fit myths (we should have gone to the pub for a couple of beers).

  • Outfit for Air Travel
    Outfit for Air Travel

    Your Outfit for Air Travel is another one of those things that have changed over time.

  • Outfit for Watching Football
    Outfit for Watching Football

    Football season’s finally here! Hot enough to feel sorry for the boys running around on field, but still time to start thinking about your Outfit for Watching Football.

  • How to Choose The Clothing Quality That’s Right For You
    How to Choose The Clothing Quality That’s Right For You

    Today I want to talk about clothing quality. In the main because there has been a recent push for people to buy fewer, higher quality garments that last longer.