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Wisdom
With a family history of dementia and Alzheimer’s in mind and the recent-ish discovery of the importance of ongoing development and use of our critical capacities, this is the place for goals on maintaining cleverness. Not just nous, but a bit of book smarts too. A little something to have my back when I am out in the trenches defending my point of view.
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Stop and Smell the Roses
Last year, I wrote about tiny little things. How pausing to stop and smell the roses might help you feel a little bit more in control. It does for me at any rate.
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This Will Pass (at some point)
I’m writing the books people will need to take their next steps into whatever new normal is on the way. So my point here, is this will pass. Life will move on.
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The Three Wise Monkeys
Have you heard of the three wise monkeys? Hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil. In the modern west, it’s often used in the sense of ignoring something morally wrong. But in the original Japanese context, it’s about not doing or being morally wrong.
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Product Price v Quality
Continuing the theme of choice, and gratitude, today I’m talking a bit more about choice. Only this time, more about things than people. Both in terms of price, v quality. And why it’s sometimes better to pay a bit more.
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Choosing to Make a Difference
So, given everything else that’s going on, it seemed a good time to revisit Choice. Or choosing.
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My Trifecta of Thanks
There’s a lot to be upset about at the moment, most of it we have no control over, but there’s still a lot to be grateful for, so here’s my Trifecta of Thanks.
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Times Are Tough and Getting Tougher
There’s no doubt times are tough right now – June especially so under Covid restrictions has passed, even though they’re easing a bit.
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Is the Old or New Normal Better For You?
Politicians have “won” the war on Covid, and are talking “getting back to normal,” even though we don’t have a normal to go back to. We have a “new normal.”
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Carlton the Human Hairpin
I have to start by saying this is not the post I set out to write, and if you’re not fond of clowns, you should immediately shut the page down and move on to something less frightening. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. Now. I’ve written before about appropriateness in clothing and a little about…
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The Joy of Being
It seems to me, despite the sh*t going on right now, the joy of being alive balances it out.
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I’m Fine Just Behind
Bearing in mind my friend Katy’s concern about her favourite blogger, I thought I’d post a picture and let you know I’m fine just behind.
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The Life-Changing Magic of Getting a Haircut
Somewhat related to my version of string theory is my hair theory, That getting a haircut can, and does change your life.
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The Pleasure of Getting Things Done
Despite the hope of getting things done, we’re often better at starting than finishing them. Yet by definition, getting things done is all about the finish. Finish: A1. to complete something or come to the end of an activityB1. to eat, drink, or use something completely so that none remains Cambridge Dictionary And there’s the…
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The Little Things I’m Grateful For
When times are tough (like now), it can help to acknowledge the good things we’re grateful for. Some days are harder than others, and on those days, I try to focus on the little things I’m grateful for. The everyday ones that I would suffer without.
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It’s Weather for Ducks
I’m not sure why people compain about rain they call it nasty – weather for ducks! (Though I’m not exactly sure why it’s only weather for ducks, and not swans or ibis.)
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I Still Survive
Sometimes you’re not thriving, sometimes it’s as much as you can do to come to a place where you can say “I still survive!”
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It’s Not War, it’s Sickness
All these fat old white men talking about a war on Covid-19 is making me irritable. It’s not war, it’s sickness.
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Dance of Death
I was reminded of Danse Macabre, also known as the Dance of Death. An allegorical concept, highlighting that regardless of your station, death comes to us all.
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On Not Perpetuating Sexist Language
I recently read an interesting piece by Alison Flood, who reports Oxford University Press (OUP) are replacing the sexist language in example sentences in the Oxford English Dictionaries (OED).
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Wealthy is as Wealthy Does
There’s a proverb of sorts, Beauty is as Beauty does And according to Walt Disney (video has sound) at any rate, it means being kind and doing something nice for someone who feels down. Every single day. Because beauty is about what’s on your inside, not the outside. You can Google to your heart’s content,…
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Pleasure and Pain of Healthy Habits
My last Transplant Clinic appointment was less pleasant than I’d hoped, and now I’m back to contemplating the nature of choice and healthy habits.
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What, Why, and How of Pleasure
When times get tough, one of the first expenses cut is pleasure. In the face of all other considerations, it becomes frivolous and wasteful. And yet, without pleasure, life can look and feel very grim.
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Public Bathroom Benefits
A while back, someone told me that most people are too lazy to travel more than one or two cubicles in a public bathroom. And the longer the run, the cleaner the end is by comparison to the beginning.
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How to Respect All People
Respect; politeness, honour, and care shown towards someone or something that is considered important (Cambridge dictionary) When
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How to Solve the Time Management Mystery
I was chatting about the Time Management Mystery with some creative friends the other day. Actually, we were whining about how we have so much to do, and not enough time to do it in. And speculating how some of the creatives we’re inspired by manage their time.
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Thank You Mrs Sparkle
Mrs Sparkle is the most selflessly loving person I know. She’s always making and doing things for other people, and no one ever says thank you.
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Remembering and Forgetting
Not long ago, Katy got in touch. And I was remembering that she taught me one of the most important lessons that I have ever learned.
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Joyful Memories from Gifts of Love
I’ve already talked about realia; the stuff used by historic figures or at historic events and therefore worthy of collection. But as it turns out, we leave us day-to-day reminders of themselves as well – Gifts of Love.
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Understanding Choice and What To Do With It
A while back, almost at the start of this blog, I talked about a place for setting goals for choice. And when it came down to it, understanding choice – consciously making choices, not having them thrust on me. Mind you, that also came with the intention of getting good at cryptic crosswords and I…
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Creating a Happy and Healthy Home
Recently there have been a lot of changes in the Blaelock Household, with the aim of creating a happy and healthy home.
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Your hierarchy of needs
In 1954, Abraham Maslow posited that all people are driven to fulfil a basic set of human needs, from the most basic through a hierarchy of needs.
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Electricity Humbug
The other day, our electricity went out, and I was a little surprised about how dependent on it we’ve become. Even though I’ve written about that before.
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The Happy Benefits of Overcoming Fear
One of the 2019 Emerging Writers Festival workshops I enjoyed was Madeleine Dore’s Reaching the Finish Line, but it was mainly about overcoming fear.
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How to Save Your Private Papers for Posterity
I’m working on a new book and over the last few weeks I’ve spent many hours snooping about in century old private papers.
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How to Mind the Beeswax of Business
I’ve been thinking about minding the beeswax of business. It started when I was happily watching a period drama.
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Do You Think You Have Control of Your Life?
Do you have control of your life? Most people would immediately say yes, but few bother to think about how. Or if in fact they do. Following on from Mother’s day, I’ve been musing about my mother. I admit I am probably more fond of her now that she’s dead than when she wasn’t. We…
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The Exciting Discovery of an Epic Library Catalogue
Sometimes it’s funny what you find isn’t it? You start an internet search with a clear goal, and this leads to that, which comes round to the other. And before you know it, the day’s gone and all you found was an epic library catalogue from the sixteenth century!
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Are Traditional Family Values a Good Thing?
Here in Australia, we’re just a couple of weeks away from the Federal Election. Like all elections, the bulk of candidates are campaigning on Traditional Family Values.
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How to Renovate Your Life
Pretty Girl’s experiencing a new interest in things that make Labradors happy – she makes me think there are times you need to renovate your life.
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How to Conduct a Rewarding Research Project
Today’s post is for Emily, who recently read about my Research Outfit and wondered exactly what kind of rewarding research project I’m tackling that risks my hair getting caught in machinery.
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How to Plan a Bright Future
I’ve been reading Any Ordinary Day and thinking about what makes a bright future. In the book, Leigh Sales interviews people about their first-hand experiences.
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What labels do you wear?
Since the Christchurch attacks, I’ve been thinking about how we label ourselves. The need we seem to have to package ourselves in a way that makes us appealing to others.
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Books: to keep or not?
Since I read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying, I keep falling over intense, library voice (whispered) bookish debates about books – to keep or not.
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Year of the Pig Perspicacity
If you hadn’t noticed, we’re just starting the Chinese Year of the Pig. I have a few words about pig perspicacity. Mainly because it’s a nice alliteration.
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Some Thoughts on Things
I’ve had some thoughts on things: things we buy, things we keep, and things we throw away. That’s a lot of things.
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How to Win in the Sales Season
It’s sales season again – that time of year when it seems everyone is trying to get their hands in your wallet. Preferably to empty it, leaving you (and their competitors) with nothing.
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Wishing on a Moon Balloon
We’re blessed by lunar events, including supermoon, blue moon, blood moon, partial solar eclipse, and a total lunar eclipse. Like a big old moon balloon.
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What is Love?
I’ve been watching a few romances lately, and I can’t help asking, what is love? Bearing in mind the standard romance book/movie/song story line where a person meets another person, falls in love, has a big fight, gets back together and lives happily ever after.
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I miss you so much
One of the key Stoic philosophical foundations is preparing yourself for misfortune. There’s a sort of miss you or make you risk management element to it.
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How To Apologise Like You Mean It
There’s been another round of dud apologies, and I just don’t get why some people find it so hard to apologise. Perhaps they too have a mother who spent years demanding that they apologise like they mean it. And when (if) they do, it’s often too late – the horse has bolted – the damage…
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Coffee’s Place in the New Culture of Selfishness
Recently I’ve been pondering the culture of selfishness we live in. The one where people pull out in front of you rather than waiting a few seconds for you to drive past.
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The Pleasure and Pain of the Stories You Tell Yourself
They say there’s a novel in all of us, but it seems to me that the stories you tell yourself on an average day could write a novel a day for the rest of your life. And still not make a dent in your story.
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Your Role as Purchasing Agent
Have you ever thought about your role as a Purchasing Agent? Or are you like most people who just buy stuff?
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How to Make a Wild Monkey Contingency Plan
A wise man once told me that difficult thoughts are like wild monkeys. And I’ve discovered that now and again you need a Wild Monkey Contingency Plan just to get some peace.
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How to Recognise and Take Advantage of Opportunities
You’re only a few steps from losing or winning it all. You just need the ability to recognise and take advantage of opportunities that come your way.
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Life Is All Too Short
Life is a finite thing. It has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Sometimes life is all too short, and sometimes it’s way too long.
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How to Make Good Purchasing Decisions
Here in Australia, the Banking Royal Commission is well underway. And you may wonder what this has to do with good purchasing decisions, but at some point, we all chose to buy their services, and some of us chose to invest in them, and all of our superannuation funds invest and bank with them.
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Memento Mori
For those who don’t know, the Latin phrase Memento Mori more or less means remember, you’re gonna die too. And perhaps coincidentally concurrent with my visit to the Vikings exhibition, the funeral home that threatened to cancel my mother’s funeral four hours before it was due to commence sent me an email to remind me that it’s…
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A Short Soapbox about Fat Old White Guys and Doing the Housework
I’ve been thinking about modern life. And how fat old white guys still run the world. And that they believe they know what is best for everyone else.
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Why You Should Joyfully Embrace Difference
Except now and again, a singularly bright person stands out. They choose to embrace difference and drawing on their individuality, get out there and make an impact.
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The Relationship Between Time Money and Love
I’ve been researching Life in the Great Depression, so I’ve been thinking a lot about the relationships between time, money, and love.
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5 Tips for Surviving Renovations
We’ve been renovating our bathroo; it’s been what you might call interesting… With that in mind, here are my top 5 tips for surviving renovations.
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5 Ways to Plan for the Plateau
Somehow a conversation about The X-Files morphed into running aground when you are trying to lose weight because people just don’t plan for the plateau.
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Know Thyself
We have been exhorted since ancient times to “know thyself”, mainly because you come to know the gods by knowing yourself. Though some ancients felt this was just a way to find out how ignorant and stupid you are.
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Rethinking Vulnerability
It seems that every time I turn around, I see or hear something about the benefits of vulnerability. I’ve talked about it before in relation to pride, but it seems like it might be time to look at it again.
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Dealing with Assisted Death
Following a multi-party, Upper House inquiry into “end of life” choices; Victoria may become the first Australian state to permit assisted death.
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How to Deal With a Bad Day
It’s been one of those days that you might call a bad day, and I’m feeling grumpy and generally disgruntled:
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What Happens if You Slow Down?
In a forum that we are both members of, Sharon asked the question “What happens when you slow down?”
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Politics of Personal Roles
In response to some recent political idiocy, I have been thinking about the politics of personal roles. This follows my earlier thoughts on how personal aspects convey your essence and representative government in general.
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Exemplum Virtutis
Exemplum Virtutis, n. An example or model of virtue worthy of imitation; a paragon.
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Alexandria’s Adventures in Productivity Journalling
I’ve been into productivity journalling for a while, and I mention it in my monthly progress reports. I’ve been asked a few times what it is, how it works, and where to get one.
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Life is What Happens When…
Just recently, I have heard many different iterations of “Life is what happens when you are planning other stuff.”
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Double Jeopardy in Jumping to a Conclusion
I confess that I saw this drawing “Jumping to a Conclusion” first. And having found the image I knew I had to write something to write about so I could use it. Like the creative writing exercises I used to do in primary (elementary) school. Only different.
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Pleasure of Existing
What with one thing and another I have spent a lot of time just existing lately. By existing, I mean sitting passively through periods of time with next to no obvious brain activity.
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How to Effectively Manage Your Mental Clutter
As I was unpacking after my funeral trip, I realised it would take me a while to get back to normal mentally. I’d accumulated a lot of mental clutter leading up to the funeral trip, and it would be harder to sort out than unpacking a suitcase.
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Why Pigeonholing People is a Problem
It is human nature to classify things, most commonly into good and bad categories where they can be safely forgotten. But pigeonholing people can be problematic for you as well as the person you are classifying.
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Why You Are Lost Without Your Family Photos
As you know, I have been making arrangements for my mother’s funeral, and I spent almost a whole day looking through family photos for pictures of her. They will be placed up large on a tv screen in the Chapel and small for the memorial card.
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How to Plan a Stress Free Emergency Trip
My 90-year-old mother has just come out of hospital, so tonight, after an emergency trip I am sitting in a hotel room in the town I grew up in.
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5 Things I Hate About Representative Government
So I’m reaching the point where the next fat old white man politician who tells me he’s in politics (representative government) to do what he thinks is right is in danger.
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Why You Should be Grateful for Your Life
Thanks to a whiny conversation overheard on a train, I’ve been thinking about how you (and I) should be more grateful for your life, and that you (or I) aren’t living someone else’s.
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The Metaphysics of the Control Clarity Continuum
My neighbour’s desire for a manicured lawn, saw me pulling a dead shrub. Leaving plenty of time to contemplate whether you can control clarity.
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Give Confusion the Slip and Cultivate Clarity
Having had a recent temper tantrum when confronted by refrigerator chaos, I realised it was time to restore order and cultivate clarity.
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Pride and Vulnerability
my desire for financial independence entails a reluctance to depend on my husband. I’ve been thinking a lot about pride and vulnerability since then.
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Reflections on the Joy of Mastery
It’s getting to the end of the year, and my well of creativity is drying up. I was looking for a different kind of picture for a different kind of post when I found this reflection on the joy of mastery. The picture’s not bad either.
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Who is the Essence of Your Person, Role, and Identity?
I recently watched The Crown, and found the portrayal of the young Queen struggling to balance her person, role, and identity engrossing.
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Alexandria’s Adventures in Food and Nutrition
Following my transplant review, I’ve done some research on food and nutrition. It’s been interesting, entertaining, and frustrating in equal measure. It is a whole other ball of string.
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Where in the War Zone is the Peacetime Blue Sky?
This weekend, in retrospect, has been a little surreal. Despite being at its core a perfectly ordinary peacetime weekend for this time of year.
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Alexandria’s Adventure in Adventure
My October adventure was compiling my first business tax return, but I’m fairly confident no one wants to read about that. While I found it was almost as exhilarating and terrifying as learning a little coding, most of you won’t consider it the kind of bold and risky undertaking that we commonly think of as…
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How to conquer fatigue; Physical, Mental and Spiritual
I don’t know about you, but I am really tired. I need to know how to conquer fatigue. Not just the physical fatigue that’s at the root of it, but mental and spiritual fatigue too.
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Election Day Reflection
Today I fulfilled one of my obligations as an Australian Citizen and voted on Election Day in the Federal Election.
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Alexandria’s Adventures in Morning Routine
Following my brush with the collapse of control, I’ve been noticing a lot of chat about “morning routine” in my podcasts and webinars lately, and there has been one thing that stood out for me.
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On Losing the Comfortable Illusion of Control
I’ve had a pretty awful day, so, I have been thinking about the nature of control, or perhaps more accurately, the illusion of control.
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The Great Houdini and his Awesome Leap for Life Yarra Dive
I came across this series of Houdini photos a little while back but didn’t have enough time to do much more than say OMG! Houdini was in Melbourne!! How did I not know that???
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Look Forward
I think we spend too much time wishing we had done things differently instead of taking a look forward.
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5 Brave Steps to a Joyous New Life
I recently re-read Third Act Trousseau, by Kay Noske, I was saddened by her undertone of wistful regret but inspired by her choice to create a new life starting with the things she missed out on.
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Mobile Phone Madness
The first mobile phone call took place in 1973, but I didn’t get my first phone until 1997.
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Individualism and Collectivism
Last week was a solemn week for many Australians, and there has been an element of the tension between individualism and collectivism, and whose goals should be primary.