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Overachiever Much?
The front of the overachiever card features a woman sitting at a desk, with books, papers and a coffee cup on the desk in front of her. Behind her, hundreds of notes pinned to the wall.
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Alexandriaโs Adventures with a stop doing list
On to week five of Dr Amantha Imber’s energy experiments. This week, and the stop doing list, was all about boundaries (links to the others are at the bottom of this post).
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Alexandriaโs Adventures with Permission Slips
My fourth Dr Amantha Imber energy experiment was permission slips. The links to the others are at the bottom of this post.
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Alexandriaโs Adventures with Energy Tracking
Energy Tracking was the third experiment of my contribution to Dr Amantha Imber’s new book. You can find links to the others at the bottom of this post.
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Alexandria’s Adventures with the Feelings Wheel
The Feelings Wheel experiment is the second of my Dr Amantha Imber energy experiments for her new book.
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Alexandria’s Adventures with a Project Pause
When I heard Dr Amantha Imber was looking for volunteers for eight weeks of energy experiments, I was all in. This week was all about the project pause.
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Modern Adulting
There’s a recent trend of blaming your parents for everything that’s wrong with you, so I thought I’d look at modern adulting.
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Changing time zones
It’s the time of year when the clocks are changing time zones. Half the world moves to summer time, and the rest moves to winter.
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Light in the darkness
After a week of general rubbishness, a thought I saw the dimmest light in the darkness.
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Quitting
Lately I’ve been thinking about quitting. In general, I’m the kind of person that just keeps moving on until the job is done.
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Freak Situations
In one of a number of freak situations, we recently endured a major power outage/failure/interruption caused by wild weather. Fingers are pointing, accusations are flying, and we’re ducking recriminations all round. More than half the state of Victoria was affected.
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Is It Reluctance or Agoraphobia?
were subject to the lockdowns, I used to joke I was in danger of becoming agoraphobic. And given Melbourne may have endured the longest lockdown on the planet, or the most consecutive days in lockdown, or if you compare a very small number of cities…
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Wonderful Habits and Routines
I’ve been thinking about habits and routines. I’ve written many times about morning routines, and each of these routines are actually long chains of habits.
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The Phantom Chicken
Haley Joel Osment may have been able to see dead people, (The Sixth Sense), but seemingly, I see a chicken that isn’t there.
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Three Types of Beauty
According to my loosey-goosey blog schedule, today’s post is supposed to be about Beauty, but I really have very little idea what to write about. So, I do what I always do in these circumstances – a random internet search to see what comes up. Here, in order of listing, is what comes up in…
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Expectation
Expectation is a way of thinking about the future. You’re expecting a particular outcome from the actions you’re taking. Maybe you’re following a recipe expecting for a delicious meal.
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The Wisdom of the Crone
One of the major fictional archetypes is the crone. She may be the grumpy old woman you want to steer clear of in case she curses you.
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The Virtues of Leadership
Way back when I was studying for my Masters in Project Management, one of the core (compulsory) units was Leadership. Mainly because Project Managers have to unify short-term teams of people. Most often while they report to a permanent management structure that doesn’t include the team leader. Show them the way, so to speak. I…
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Adulting, Accountability & Responsibility
Not long ago, Katy asked for adulting tips, and I made a smart comment about social media. She scornfully suggested no one plans to waste an hour on social media, and that was kind of the point I was messily trying to make.
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Monk’s Evening Routine
Having been intrigued by the Venerable Nick Keomahavong’s morning routine, it’s only a small step to wondering about a Monk’s evening routine. Similar to morning routine, most evening routines are focused on increasing productivity the next day. But the Monk’s purpose in their evening routine is to bring the mind back home to stillness and…
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Monk’s Morning Routine
Not sure what I was searching for when I came across a new to me take on the morning routine – the Buddhist Monk’s morning routine as demonstrated by the Venerable Nick Keomahavong.
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The Significance of Sighing
DB commented the other day that I’ve been sighing a lot. I had no idea. But now that he’s mentioned it, I’m noticing I do it all the time! So I decided to find out why.
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The Day Seems Bleak
We’ve had FIVE covid related lockdowns. Full of long, bleak days. So many that even I, an introvert who works from home, has about had enough.
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The Time Flew By
Have you ever lost yourself in some kind of activity and wondered where the time went? You say, “oh my gosh, the time flew by, I have no idea where it went!”
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Stop and Smell the Roses
Last year, I wrote about tiny little things. How pausing to stop and smell the roses might help you feel a little bit more in control. It does for me at any rate.
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The Three Wise Monkeys
Have you heard of the three wise monkeys? Hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil. In the modern west, it’s often used in the sense of ignoring something morally wrong. But in the original Japanese context, it’s about not doing or being morally wrong.
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Dance of Death
I was reminded of Danse Macabre, also known as the Dance of Death. An allegorical concept, highlighting that regardless of your station, death comes to us all.
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On Not Perpetuating Sexist Language
I recently read an interesting piece by Alison Flood, who reports Oxford University Press (OUP) are replacing the sexist language in example sentences in the Oxford English Dictionaries (OED).
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Pleasure and Pain of Healthy Habits
My last Transplant Clinic appointment was less pleasant than Iโd hoped, and now Iโm back to contemplating the nature of choice and healthy habits.
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How to Respect All People
Respect; politeness, honour, and care shown towards someone or something that is considered important (Cambridge dictionary) When
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Creating a Happy and Healthy Home
Recently there have been a lot of changes in the Blaelock Household, with the aim of creating a happy and healthy home.
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Your hierarchy of needs
In 1954, Abraham Maslow posited that all people are driven to fulfil a basic set of human needs, from the most basic through a hierarchy of needs.
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The Happy Benefits of Overcoming Fear
One of the 2019 Emerging Writers Festival workshops I enjoyed was Madeleine Dore’s Reaching the Finish Line, but it was mainly about overcoming fear.
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How to Choose What To Do First
It’s been a busy couple of weeks. I have so much to do that I’m not sure what to do first. Or second. Or last for that matter.
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The Exciting Discovery of an Epic Library Catalogue
Sometimes it’s funny what you find isn’t it? You start an internet search with a clear goal, and this leads to that, which comes round to the other. And before you know it, the day’s gone and all you found was an epic library catalogue from the sixteenth century!
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How to Conduct a Rewarding Research Project
Todayโs post is for Emily, who recently read about my Research Outfit and wondered exactly what kind of rewarding research project Iโm tackling that risks my hair getting caught in machinery.
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Books: to keep or not?
Since I read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying, I keep falling over intense, library voice (whispered) bookish debates about books – to keep or not.
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Year of the Pig Perspicacity
If you hadn’t noticed, we’re just starting the Chinese Year of the Pig. I have a few words about pig perspicacity. Mainly because it’s a nice alliteration.
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How To Apologise Like You Mean It
There’s been another round of dud apologies, and I just don’t get why some people find it so hard to apologise. Perhaps they too have a mother who spent years demanding that they apologise like they mean it. And when (if) they do, it’s often too late – the horse has bolted – the damage…
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Memento Mori
For those who don’t know, the Latin phrase Memento Mori more or less means remember, you’re gonna die too. And perhaps coincidentally concurrent with my visit to the Vikings exhibition, the funeral home that threatened to cancel my mother’s funeral four hours before it was due to commence sent me an email to remind me that it’s…
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A Short Soapbox about Fat Old White Guys and Doing the Housework
I’ve been thinking about modern life. And how fat old white guys still run the world. And that they believe they know what is best for everyone else.
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The Relationship Between Time Money and Love
I’ve been researching Life in the Great Depression, so I’ve been thinking a lot about the relationships between time, money, and love.
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5 Ways to Plan for the Plateau
Somehow a conversation about The X-Files morphed into running aground when you are trying to lose weight because people just donโt plan for the plateau.
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Know Thyself
We have been exhorted since ancient times to โknow thyselfโ, mainly because you come to know the gods by knowing yourself. Though some ancients felt this was just a way to find out how ignorant and stupid you are.
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Rethinking Vulnerability
It seems that every time I turn around, I see or hear something about the benefits of vulnerability. Iโve talked about it before in relation to pride, but it seems like it might be time to look at it again.
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Dealing with Assisted Death
Following a multi-party, Upper House inquiry into “end of life” choices; Victoria may become the first Australian state toย permit assisted death.
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How to Deal With a Bad Day
It’s been one of those days that you might call a badย day, and I’m feeling grumpy and generally disgruntled:
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What Happens if You Slow Down?
In a forum that we are both members of, Sharon asked the question “What happens when you slow down?”
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Politics of Personal Roles
In response to some recent political idiocy, I have been thinking about the politics of personal roles. This follows my earlier thoughts on how personal aspects convey your essence and representative government in general.
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Exemplum Virtutis
Exemplum Virtutis, n. An example or model of virtue worthy of imitation; a paragon.
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Alexandria’s Adventures in Productivity Journalling
I’ve been into productivity journalling for a while, and I mention it in my monthly progress reports. I’ve been asked a few times what it is, how it works, and where to get one.
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Pleasure of Existing
What with one thing and another I have spent a lot of time just existing lately. By existing, I mean sitting passively through periods of time with next to no obvious brain activity.
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How to Effectively Manage Your Mental Clutter
As I was unpacking after my funeral trip, I realised it would take me a while to get back to normal mentally. I’d accumulated a lot of mental clutter leading up to the funeral trip, and it would be harder to sort out than unpacking a suitcase.
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Why Pigeonholing People is a Problem
It is human nature to classify things, most commonly into good and bad categories where they can be safely forgotten. But pigeonholing people can be problematic for you as well as the person you are classifying.
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Why You Are Lost Without Your Family Photos
As you know, I have been making arrangements for my mother’s funeral, and I spent almost a whole day looking through family photos for pictures of her. They will be placed up large on a tv screen in the Chapel and small for the memorial card.
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How to Cope When Monotasking Goes Bad
I confess I am a monotasker, but right now, Iโm struggling to cope as my monotasking goes bad. I prefer to do one thing at a time, generally until itโs done.
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How to Plan a Stress Free Emergency Trip
My 90-year-old mother has just come out of hospital, so tonight, after an emergency trip I am sitting in a hotel room in the town I grew up in.
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5 Things I Hate About Representative Government
So I’m reaching the point where the next fat old white man politician who tells me he’s in politics (representative government) to do what he thinks is right is in danger.
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The Metaphysics of the Control Clarity Continuum
My neighbour’s desire for a manicured lawn, saw me pulling a dead shrub. Leaving plenty of time to contemplate whether you can control clarity.
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Give Confusion the Slip and Cultivate Clarity
Having had a recent temper tantrum when confronted by refrigerator chaos, I realised it was time to restore order and cultivate clarity.
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Pride and Vulnerability
my desire for financial independence entails a reluctance to depend on my husband. I’ve been thinking a lot about pride and vulnerability since then.
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Reflections on the Joy of Mastery
It’s getting to the end of the year, and my well of creativity is drying up. I was looking for a different kind of picture for a different kind of post when I found this reflection on the joy of mastery. The picture’s not bad either.
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Who is the Essence of Your Person, Role, and Identity?
I recently watched The Crown, and found the portrayal of the young Queen struggling to balance her person, role, and identity engrossing.
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Alexandria’s Adventures in Food and Nutrition
Following my transplant review, I’ve done some research onย food and nutrition. It’s been interesting, entertaining, and frustrating in equal measure. It is a whole other ball of string.
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Alexandria’s Adventure in Adventure
My October adventure was compiling my first business tax return, but I’m fairly confident no one wants to read about that. While I found it was almost as exhilarating and terrifying as learning a little coding, most of you won’t consider it the kind of bold and risky undertaking that we commonly think of as…
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Alexandria’s Adventures in Morning Routine
Following my brush with theย collapse of control, I’ve been noticing a lot of chat about “morning routine” in my podcasts and webinars lately, and there has been one thing that stood out for me.
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On Losing the Comfortable Illusion of Control
I’ve had a pretty awful day, so, I have been thinking about the nature of control, or perhaps more accurately, the illusion of control.
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The Great Houdini and his Awesome Leap for Life Yarra Dive
I came across this series of Houdini photos a little while back but didn’t have enough time to do much more than say OMG! Houdini was in Melbourne!! How did I not know that???
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Look Forward
I think we spend too much time wishing we had done things differently instead of taking a look forward.
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Mobile Phone Madness
The first mobile phone call took place in 1973, but I didnโt get my first phone until 1997.
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Individualism and Collectivism
Last week was a solemn week for many Australians, and there has been an element of the tension between individualism and collectivism, and whose goals should be primary.
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Alexandria’s Adventure in 100% Pashmina
I bought a lovely shawl not long ago. It was labelled “100% Pashmina”, but I knew when I bought it that it was not “pashmina”.
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Importance of Free Will in Destiny
After the destiny post, I was accused of being depressing. Not what I hoped for, but it leads into a discussion about the place of free will/autonomy/human agency in destiny.
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A Short History of Attitudes Towards Household Expenditure
I am intrigued in particular about how the attitudes towards household expenditure I’ve been reading about have changed.
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5 Simple Self-Care Steps for Body and Soul
This time of year, you’ll find a lot of people really committing to self-care, though they canโt seem to identify what exactly that entails aside from โeating wellโ and โrunning.โ
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For Better or Worse, Life goes on
My Aunt’s funeral is over and according to popular wisdom I’ve said my goodbyes and should move on, but I don’t want to rush forward yet. Life goes on; and at this time of year, life is relentless.
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Marie Lloyd Queen of the Music Hall
I followedย a link from here to there to somewhere else entirely and found myself in the land of the Victorian English Music Hall, hot on the heels of larger than life Marie Lloyd, theย “Queen of the Music Hall”ย (1870 – 1922).
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Ruminations on Rodents
Wild rodentsย can carry disease (and otherย pests like fleas and mites), they are NOT diseased because they are rodents.
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The Pursuit of Perfection
Over a wide-ranging breakfast discussion this morning, Toseland describedย evolution as the pursuit of perfection.ย I thought that was a pretty interesting way to describe natural selection, but it’s true.ย It is the creatures that are best adapted to their environment that will survive long enough to reproduce.
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Mythic Hero Quest
I recently watched yet another gripping episode of Game of Thrones and itย got me thinking about the mythic hero quest.
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How to Protect Yourself from buying counterfeit goods
Recently I had the misfortune to purchase counterfeit goods online. Owning counterfeit goods in Australia is illegal, let alone selling them. I found it very shocking โ I thought I had been really careful, but once you click the buy button itโs too late!
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Silence in the Garden
I noticed silence in the garden is lost too, with unwanted noise in the form ofย car alarms, leaf blowers, and “doof-doof” music.
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5 Ways to Show Your Sick Friend You Care
I have some experience as a sick friend, so here are five things to help you show your sick friend you care.
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Would You Sell Your Soul?
After a Supernatual marathon I’ve been thinkingย about what people do when they really want something. Sell your soul or do the work?
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About Anzac Day
Saturday 25 April is Anzac Day. Along with Australia Day, it marks a key date in the development of both our Australian national character and calendar.
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Observations on Easter
While I was christened an Anglican, my family wasn’t deeply religious so I don’t know much about Easter, but I know for a lot of people it’s a significant event
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Appropriating the Spaciousness of Silence
I’ve always spent a lot of time alone inside my head,ย and the silence of my alone time is whereย my creative ideas come from.ย
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More String Theory
I was having so much fun with the Fates that I wanted to talk about more string theory; last time was old old school mythology so why not go ultra modern thisย timeย with the cutting edge ofย physics theory.ย
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On International Women’s Day
I just found out that March 8 is (was) International Women’s Day. I only found out because I’m catching up on my reading (now that Stress Free Dinner Parties is on the market), and one of the services I subscribe to commented on a political party’s choice to have their formal “celebratory” dinner in a men’s club…
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Short List of Annoyingly Long Productivity Suggestions
This time of year is productivity central. Annoying productivity suggestions in the form of lists of tips and hacks and apps are coming in thick and fast. I mean really…
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Young Spirit v Older Body
I received a not-for-profit solicitation in the mail the other day. It’s an organisation that I believe does worthwhile work in the local and international communities. I have supported it for many years with donations of money, and more recently with my time and services. But, the solicitation really disturbed me – it made me very uncomfortable on a number…
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Perfidy of Modern Life
I am exercised today by the perfidy of modern life. That whole “We can get a man on the moon, but we can’t do x.” kind of thing.
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Ten Ways to Make Guests Turn Up for Your Dinner Parties
Most people want to know how to make guests turn up.ย They are a great deal more interested in this than making them leave at the end of the party.
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5 Life Lessons Confirmed Through Painting
We’ve had some warmer days so I’ve been taking a break from the garden and catching up on some inside work instead. And learning 5 life lessons while I’m at it.
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About Australia Day
Today (26 January) is my national day; Australia Day. On this day in 1788, our first Governor Captain Arthur Phillip arrived in Sydney Cove with the First Fleet to establish the first British Penal Colony.
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Amazingly Unlikely Birth and Death
As you know,ย I’m working in the garden. ย Observing birth and death, but mainly just weeding the last few days…ย Which led to the appalling discovery that I can’t see well enough to weed properly without my “reading” glasses.ย Might need to get some prescription sunglasses made up for just that purpose… Anyway, Iย found a pansy…
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My kidney transplant
I received a kidney transplant in 2011.ย I was so sick for so long I wanted to stop treatment and let the end come.ย There was nothing more to do…